We move forward a few years in order to observe the elementary school environment. The ‘alpha doggy’ is now determined by an interesting combination of height and or weight. This ‘advanced growth’ person decides what games are to be played and who will be on what teams. It is no accident that the team they are on, on a daily basis seems to win whatever game has been appointed for the day. Those who tire of the unfairness or non-democratic way of this particular ‘in-group’ soon find themselves in a group of cast-offs where another self-appointed ‘alpha doggy’ repeats the behavior learned in the rejected-group. These ‘alpha doggies’ are also in charge of the seating arrangements during the lunch hours. We will also witness some who have either tired of having to always conform or were never considered worthy to be included by the ‘alpha doggies’ in any of the groups, who find themselves spending a lot of time on the ‘outs’ and who find solace in reading or sulking. Administrators are constantly adjusting lunch hours or building a sheltering fence around the kindergarten kids or putting the 6th grade in a middle school along with numerous other ‘adjustments’ in an endless attempt at equalizing opportunities as they strive to keep older students from dominating younger.
We fast forward our observations to the high school and find that the ‘alpha dog’ system still exists, but now the groups seem to be more sophisticated and more permanently defined. They are now called clubs, gangs, social groups or best friends, but the same dynamics which existed when we were observing ‘puppies and doggies’ exist in the ‘alpha dog’ world of high school. The main difference we find at this age is that now we seem to have more mobility between groups and the groups we are in seem to be more or less of our own choosing. Once we are in a group it isn’t long before an ‘alpha dog’ immerges. Since some maturation has taken place we now have elections to determine who will decide agendas and schedules, but the results always seem predetermined by a strange indefinable thing called popularity. Even though in most cases we seem to have more freedom of movement from group to group and the choosing of which group we will be subjected by, we still observe many of the dynamics which existed during previous eras of our life.
As we observe the days of maturity, we all pride ourselves about how we have chosen the right pound in which to reside and how our ‘alpha hound’ is the wisest and most capable and will lead us to the enjoyments which are coveted in life. To be sure we now have a great deal of self-will which we use in determining the size, location and climate of our ‘run,’ but just as surely as we were before we will in one way or another be controlled by the ‘alpha hound’ we have chosen or who has chosen us. We now find a great deal of our time is spent barking at the other ‘dog packs’ and degrading and pointing out the faults of their erroneous ‘alpha hounds,’ letting any who might listen know how right we are and how wrong they are.
With a great deal of remorse we observe that this self-segregating hound mentality is most pronounced with those who profess to be practicing religion. It is remarkable that we can only sniff out faults and failures with the tenets and dogmas of other denominations, but we can endlessly bark out the correctness of the doctrines and principles which we have chosen to follow. As we read the interpreted and acceptable Holy Words of our group we can easily see the need for repentance and change in all others. Those of other deluded pounds are always the tares while any inspired person can surely identify us as the wheat. They all look like wolves while we have the sweet countenance of lambs. They are branches which need to be pruned and burned while we bring forth nothing but good fruit.
All this howling about others being false followers is done while we contentedly sit by the warm fire and read from Holy Books about how a true adherent will go about building others and tearing down walls of bigotry. We read how the good disciple will go forth to strengthen others and keep from putting stumbling blocks in their way. The Good Books instruct us to be a light for one another and refrain from illuminating the blindness of our neighbor.
In spite of all the self-appointed ‘demi-dogs’ ultimately we are all searching for truth, for the one ultimate source of light and life. No matter in what ‘pound’ we have found sufficient shade to make us feel satisfied, we need to stir once in a while in an attempt to move closer to that which will bring us inchingly closer to ‘things as they really are.’
(To be continued)
I'm anxious for the "other shoe" to drop!
ReplyDeleteDouglas Higham
DEAR BROTER RILEY, THANKS SO MUCH FOR YOUR TIMELY MESSAGE. I AM NOW
ReplyDeleteIN NORTHERN THAILAND FOR FIVE DAYS, AND I SAW YOUR MESSAGE TODAY LOUD
AND CLEAR. I AM STAYING AT A BED AND BREAKFAST OWNED BY BUDDHISTS.
THIS MORNING THE OWNER WANTED TO TAKE ME INTO TOWN AND ESPECIALLY SHOW
ME THE FOOD MARKET (IT'S A LOT LIKE THOSE IN SOUTH AMERICA.) ANYWAYS,
BEFORE WE LEFT THE HOME, ALL THE STAFF AND FAMILY MEMBERS ASKED ME TO
JOIN THEM AS THEY PRAY AND LEAVE OFFERINGS TO "THEIR HOUSE BUDDHA" AND
THANK HIM FOR THEIR HOME AND EXPRESS THEIR DESIRE TO BE GOOD STEWARTS
OF BOTH THE HOME AND THE LAND. IT IS A SIMPLE RITUAL DONE HERE EVERY
MONDAY AS THEY BEGIN THEIR NEW WEEK, BUT IT SURELY MADE ME THINK OF
HOW MUCH STEWARDSHIP SHOULD MEAN, AND THAT IT IS DEVOUT BUDDHISTS WHO
EXPRESS THIS PRINCIPLE SO BEAUTIFULLY.
MAY YOU HAVE A GREAT WEEK.
CON AMOR,
BONNIE LYNN
Gracias hermano Riley por sus pensamientos espero la continuacion en Colombia pues viajamos desde el 23 de Enero hasta principiuos de Abril.
ReplyDeleteAbrazos.
Armando Gomez
Dear Bro. Riley:
ReplyDeleteThank you for the needed guidance. This whole week I was thinking of staying away from church and everything I am going through. I just want to run away from everything. Then I received your thought, it help me realized that my trial is just a moment. I need to look at the bigger picture and hold on to what I know inside me that the gospel is true and no matter how each day seems tough, I need to move forward and accept people as what they are and thrive to be better each day.
Daisy Ryan
"Thy true religion in our hearts give peace..."
ReplyDeleteSteve Nord
Muchas gracias.
ReplyDeleteMás que este pensamiento, lo acepto como mi amigo.
Confírmeme si usted me acepta como su amigo.
Más allá de la rutina de recibir su inspirado pensamiento, me interesa el amigo
Atentamente,
José Leopoldo Ramos Ospino
Mis estimados
ReplyDeleteWilliam y Kathleen Riley:
Reciban un colombianísimo saludo.
Los recuerdo muy bien como si los estuviera viendo personalmente.
No están obligados a recordarme. Yo era el encargado del Departamento de Visas y Viajes; y como llamamiento era el Director de Asuntos Públicos.
"Bienvenidos sus excelentes pensamientos".
Sinceramente,
José Leopoldo Ramos O.